The Top 50 Flirty Questions To Ask A Girl You’re Interested In.

One of life’s greatest pleasures is finding someone to crush on (especially a person who’s worth your attention in this *climate*). And when you catch a vibe? Oh those butterflies are fluttering. Now, it’s time to turn up the heat.

Whether you’re getting to know another person on an app or are already a couple dates in, asking flirty questions can help deepen your connection. “Breaking past small talk helps you understand a person as an individual, and what makes them feel safe and comfortable,” says polyamorous educator and sex activist Tiana Peters. It’s not only a chance to learn about their desires, but gives space to yours, too.

Before you go there with a woman, Peters recommends considering the mood and setting of the convo, and adjusting accordingly. Are you in line at Shake Shack? On a walk in a quiet park? Did she just go through a breakup?

Asking flirty questions is magical, but the last thing you want to do is make the other person feel uncomfortable. Keep an eye on body language and nonverbal cues like eye contact, or if they’re leaning in or away. Another suggestion? Getting flirtatious over a fun date night activity like cooking or sharing a meal together gives both of you time and space to consider these questions carefully, Peters says.

Even when the chemistry is on another level, verbal consent is a must if you’re introducing more erotic questions. Ask, “Would you be open to me asking you an intimate question?” to open up the space to shift the conversation, Peters says. “You don’t know what people’s past traumas are, and it’s great to be aware and respectful of that.”

So, where should you begin with the questions for another woman? Simple q’s that provoke thought or introspection, says relationship expert Amber Kelleher-Andrews. Think desires (fantasies! kinks! orgasms!) or prompts about dreams, life perspectives, or relationship qualities. If you’re texting, try setting the scene with a visual (“It’s been a long day and I’m running a bath. Can I call you later?”) and save the in-depth curiosities for when you’re together.

Remember that good communication is a two-way street, too. “When I go to ask someone something more personal, I like to share something about myself to open up that vulnerability for that level of verbal intimacy,” Peters says.

Here are 50 flirty questions (we went for a mix of romantic, personal, and sexual) to ask a woman in order to build intimacy, learn about your partner, and have a little playful banter. And now, it’s sexy Q&A time!

1. What’s something you’re passionate about that sparks your creativity?
2. What’s your favorite movie or TV show to watch with someone you’re intimate with?
3. What was the first thing you noticed about me?
4. How can you tell if someone is into you?
5. What do you like to do when you’re alone?
6. What’s your favorite daydream to have?
7. What’s your absolute favorite thing about yourself?
8. Do you have any secret talents?
9. Tell me what it is about you that people find irresistible.
10. What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?
11. What’s your definition of success?
12. Who was your childhood celebrity crush?
13. What is an accomplishment that makes you glow when you talk about it?
14. Who is someone you currently admire, and what is it about them?
15. If you could be a fly on a wall, where would it be?
16. What parts of your body do you find most attractive?
17. Tell me about your love language.
18. What’s the most romantic thing you’ve done for someone?
19. When was the last time you got butterflies?
20. What’s your favorite way to spend quality time with a partner?
21. How do you define “being in love”?
22. What qualities do you need in a relationship?
23. Tell me about your ideal relationship style.
24. How do you express intimacy without sex?
25. Do you kiss on the first date?
26. What’s the closest you’ve gotten to a perfect date?
27. What is your ultimate fantasy romantic getaway?
28. Have you ever thought about [insert kink, fantasy, or sex position], and is it something you’d be interested in trying?
29. What’s your favorite way to be touched?
30. How do you define “sex”?
31. What’s the wildest place you’ve hooked up with someone?
32. What’s your favorite time of day to have sex?
33. What is your go-to song to set the mood?
34. What was one of your first erotic experiences like?
35. How do you feel about watching porn with a partner?
36. Which of the five senses turns you on the most?
37. What dirty words turn you on—or off?
38. What does your masturbation routine involve?
39. What is your favorite sexual memory?
40. When it comes to reciprocity in your sex life, are you more of a giver or receiver?
41. What are your absolute deepest desires (with no answer being “too much”)?
42. How do you feel about bringing toys into the bedroom?
43. What physical features turn you on the most?
44. Do you have any fears or concerns regarding sex?
45. Do you have a memory of your first sexual awakening?
46. What was the last thing you searched for in porn?
47. What is a fantasy you have that you’ve never shared before?
48. Describe “orgasm” in a metaphor.
49. If you could role play any iconic movie scene, what would it be and why?
50. What’s an intimate moment that was embarrassing at the moment but you laugh about now?