How to Get a Guy Back That Pushed You Away


How to Get a Guy Back That Pushed You Away.

He pulled away… will he come back or did I scare him away for good?

It’s an inevitable part of being in a relationship … that agonizing point when your guy seems to be slipping away. Something has shifted and you can’t quite put your finger on it, all you know is the mounting sense of panic and dread running through your veins. It feels like he’s pushing you away, like he’s mounting a plastic wall around himself to keep you out… and you have no idea why.
Whenever you’re together, something feels off. You’re starting to feel like a nuisance rather than the woman he intensely desires. All you what to know is what happened and why he’s doing this. Is he losing interest … or is something else going on? Above all, you want to know how to get him back and stop him from pushing you away. Here’s what’s going on and what you need to know.
Is He Losing Interest?
Yes, he spends the same amount of time with me as he always has. I don’t know. I’m so confused. I just want the spark back. No, he never spends time with me. It’s like I don’t exist. He spends more time doing random things. Internet, friends, work, etc. Yes, he used to do things I liked, but now he could care less. Yes, he spends the same amount of time with me as he always has.
Why He’s Pulling Away. Here are some of the most common reasons a man might pull away:
He’s dealing with things in his life that have nothing to do with you.
If you’ve read any of the many, many articles on why men pull away, you’ll know that when a man is stressed or feeling emotionally overwhelmed, he will retreat in order to deal with it. He may be pushing you away because he doesn’t want to be seen in this state.
A lot of women have a hard time understanding this because women typically cling to those closest to them when they’re feeling upset about something. The only reason a woman would shut out a close friend is if she was mad at that person so it’s hard not to take it personally when a man seems to be keeping you at a distance.
He’s pulling away because of something you’re doing.
Maybe you’re being too needy, too clingy, too insecure, too demanding. Whatever it is, you’re doing something that is putting him off and causing him to want to be around you less.
No one’s perfect. We all surrender to our insecurities from time to time. Just try to step back and look at the relationship objectively. Are there problems in the relationship … or are there problems in the way you’re conducting yourself in this relationship? There is a marked difference between the two.
He doesn’t want the same relationship you want.
Maybe, in the beginning, it all started out well and good, you were having fun and enjoying one another. Now you want something more… and he just doesn’t. The relationship has become too intense for him and he just doesn’t want that level of commitment at this moment ( this could be for a variety of reasons).
I know it sucks and it’s unfair. I know it hurts. But if you can’t force someone into feeling things and wanting what you want. As much as it feels personal, remember that it’s not!
He’s just not that into you.
I hate to use this overused line, but sometimes that’s exactly what’s going on. Oftentimes, when a guy pushes you away it’s because he just doesn’t like you enough and he doesn’t know how, or he doesn’t want to, come right out and say it to you. Usually, these scenarios aren’t black or white, it’s gray. He likes a lot of things about you, he just doesn’t like you enough to continue with a relationship.
It’s getting too intense too soon.
This isn’t the same as #3. In this case, he may see a future with you but maybe it’ll all just happening too fast and he’s trying to pump the breaks. Going at a slow pace is actually a good thing in a relationship so try not to panic if this is happening.
He’s not pushing you away, you’re just being paranoid.
Sometimes we’re our own worst enemies and create problems where none exist. Try to take a step back to gain some clarity and objectivity. Is he actually doing something that indicates there is an issue… or are you being paranoid and hypervigilant and panicking over the tiniest things that might possibly signal that something is amiss?
How to get your guy Back
After discussing most common reasons why a guy might pull away from a relationship, let’s look at what you can do to get things back on track and get him back after he pushed you away:
Understand that there might be no issue here.
A little pulling away is normal in a relationship. Don’t try to solve any problems unless there is an actual problem to solve. Most of the time, we create problems where none exist by trying to fix something that wasn’t even broken. Chasing after him and clinging even tighter will only make things worse and it’s just never a good look.
Don’t stress.
When has stress ever actually solved anything? Has the answer to any problem in the history of problems ever been to just stress over it a little more? No, never.
Stress just creates an aura of insecurity and desperation and sends out a man-repelling vibe. Stressing over things is a huge waste of mental energy that gets you absolutely nowhere. The only thing you succeed in doing is feeding your own fears and insecurities, allowing them to grow exponentially and take over the rational side of you. If he’s pulling away or pushing you away, stressing about what he’s doing and why he’s doing it won’t help bring him back, it will only make things worse.
Don’t lash out at him.
Don’t succumb to your anger and unchecked emotions. Don’t blindly react to a situation. You won’t solve anything by coming after him with accusations and “how dare you!” Try to take a step back and figure out the best way to respond.

Maybe you’re hurt, maybe you feel slighted, maybe you’re indignant, maybe you’re really upset, I’m not saying you should bury your emotions. It’s OK and understandable to feel this way, but you have to take responsibility for your emotional state and not pin all the blame on him.
He’s not making you feel this way. You feel the way you do because that is your reaction to his behavior. He’s not in control over your reactions, you are. If you are upset you can absolutely talk to him about it, but there’…
Give him space and focus on yourself and your happiness
I know your knee-jerk reaction may be to pull him closer when he’s pulling away, and it seems counterintuitive to back away from the very person you crave to be close to, but that’s what you need to do in this situation. You can’t badger someone into wanting to be with you or into wanting what you want.
The best thing to do is just focus on yourself for now. Don’t try to solve his problems or fix him or win him over. And definitely, do not chase after him. Just give him space. This doesn’t mean you should wait around forever. You shouldn’t be waiting around at all. You should focus on yourself and your happiness and your life and if he continues to fade away, then that’s his choice and then you can make the choice to be OK with it.
By Emmanuel Akoto Osei


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