How do you determine the quality of items you buy from town? If it’s a phone, the reference point may be the source or the manufacture, the make, appearance, features, functionality, weight, shop location, etc.
Do we do the same background check when it comes to relationship and marriage? How do you know he or she is a good person?
Someone once told me, “Counsellor, your wife is not sophisticated as compared to the kind of man you are. It sounded funny; I laughed about it and never responded”.
Marriage is serious business; it is such a bold step for someone to make a decision on one person out of 7 billion people in this world.
I am taking the opportunity to enlighten my single friends out there on the quality of a lifetime partner.
Go for someone who accepts you as a gift, who actually compliments your life in a way that makes it better than being single, someone who knows God,
For “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows” – James 1:17 (NIV).
Go for some who believes in you, supports you and shares same belief with you, for such person won’t have to change you into who you are not.
Go for someone who loves you, someone who is willing to share their life with you, for such a person won’t keep you in the dark, lie, cheat or disrespect you.
Don’t look for a partner to solve your problems, find a partner that won’t let you go through them alone.
Don’t fall for feelings or emotions; that is not enough to sustain a marriage. Go for friendship; marry a best friend for it takes such person to make you smile when you already have tears in your eyes.
Don’t go for looks; that also fades. Remember whatever you love will be attracted to you, if you love God, you will be attracted to a partner who loves God but if you love butts, breasts, height, muscles, or other externals, you will be attracted to that.
Be attracted to the fruits of a person and not their looks. So many people get trapped into how a man or woman looks instead of how he/she lives, and who they live for!
Written by Counselor Adofoli