Award-winning gospel singer Selina Boateng has broken her silence on the challenges many Christian couples face behind closed doors.
In a heartfelt interview on Onua FM on Wednesday, June 11, 2025, she revealed that many believers, especially those in ministry, suffer in silence due to fear of public judgment.
Selina explained that Christian couples often stay in unhappy marriages because they fear being misunderstood or shamed. Many feel forced to maintain a perfect public image, even when their relationships are falling apart.
“Once you’re married, you can’t even talk about what you’re going through,” she said. “Even the people who encouraged you to get married won’t be there to comfort you when things go wrong.”
According to Selina, Christian women, particularly those in leadership roles, face even more pressure. They are expected to always look strong and holy, even when battling emotional pain at home.
“The pressure on us is enormous. We’re expected to smile through pain and act like everything is okay,” she shared.
Selina stressed that a troubled marriage affects not just the home but every area of a Christian’s life, especially their calling.
“If you’re a Christian and your marriage breaks down, it affects everything, your peace, your ministry, and your purpose. It’s even worse if you’re a gospel musician,” she noted.
The singer believes that many pastors and gospel artistes feel stuck in the wrong marriages but are too afraid to speak up.
“So much is happening behind closed doors,” she said. “If people could speak freely, you’d be shocked how many men of God and gospel musicians would admit to marrying the wrong partner.”
Selina, who married in 2019 and had her first child in 2022, admitted that her own marriage has not been easy. “If I had the chance to go back, I would have done things differently,” she said with honesty.
To those yet to marry, Selina had this advice: “Don’t rush into marriage because of age, pressure, or expectations. Take your time. Make sure it’s the right decision.”
She concluded with a sobering thought: “If people had the freedom to walk away from their marriages without judgment, divorce rates would shoot up like gunfire. That tells you how much pain many are hiding.”
